Saturday, August 25, 2012

What to do with a broken heart

When you’re broken, you pick up the pieces you can find and move on. There really isn’t anything else that can be done. Putting things back together doesn’t work out, it’s never really fixed. With time, a scar grows where your heart broke and you do the best you can with what you’re given, but the heart is never really whole again.

I discovered my heart was truly broken in the emergency room of a hospital. I was eighteen and beside myself with grief. Within minutes of devastating news, my symptoms included shortness of breath, dizziness, heart racing and chest pain. Of course, I panicked, which is another symptom.

The doctors were entirely nonchalant while the nurses hooked up monitors and discovered my heart was broken, I had a mitral value prolapse. They were a bit concerned because while the condition often has no symptoms, I seemed to be having them all.

On the home front, I had just discovered a) I was pregnant and b) my new husband of about four months was having an affair. I suppose I was a bit stressed out.

After several days they released me from the hospital. They were unable to determine physically why the symptoms appeared. I was instructed to modify my activity and life based on the severity of the symptoms.

Since that day I've followed the doctor's advice modifying life to manage unexpected situations. Now, doctors and nurses just love to listen to this classic mitral value prolapse which requires no treatment.


20 comments:

Joanne said...

wow - glad your "broken" heart is okay. That's quite a story

Sheila Siler said...

Not many people who use the term "broken heart" can truly claim that. You can. What a perspective on life you can share.

loverofwords said...

Major illnesses can change your life and make you appreciate what you have, and especially when you are young. What a milestone in your life!

Kate OMara said...

Thank you Joanne, Sheila & LoW :)
I appreciate your time to read & comment and so kindly too. Thank you.

Spidophile said...

You tell all those wimpy pop stars with their sad songs what it's really like to have a broken heart.

Kate OMara said...

LOL Spido, I guess I do have one on the achy breaky hearts. :)

Joshua said...

Having been diagnosed with Mitral and Tricuspid Valve Prolapse, I understood this. I'm sorry for the circumstances you found out about yours, though.

Kate OMara said...

Hi Joshua, There are many of us who know about our clicky values & others who don't. We learn how we learn, don't we & to live with it, yes? Yes! Do take care. :)

mare ball said...

Wow, the heart issue sounds serious, glad you are OK. What a scare so young. Also young for the emotional heartache you've endured. You probably have gained wisdom beyond your years. What a story.

Cynthia said...

Thank you for sharing. You are a strong person for being able to talk about this.

Kate OMara said...

Thanks Cynthia. It's easier to talk about now than when it happened. Time gives great perspective.

Joanne said...

Awww You were so young and had the weight of the world on your shoulders. Glad you are Ok now.
Blessings, Joanne

Kate OMara said...

Thanks Joanne. I'm glad too!

momto8blog said...

oh my gosh! that is enough mental drama to cause any symptoms!!

I am your newest follower..pls follow back if you can.

Kate OMara said...

Absolutely, following back :)

Carly Alyssa Thorne said...

The Mind, Body, Spirit Connection is an amazing thing

Sonicberg said...

Interesting that you had physical symptoms that went along with your Broken Heart. Good that it's mended well.

Martha Giffen said...

Wow! Glad you're on the mend, in more ways than one. You are inspiring!

Kate OMara said...

Awww, thank you Denise & Martha. I so appreciate that you stopped by to read my post.

Maria Stefanopoulos said...

Aw, broken heart, that's serious. When I read your blog title, I said oh wow that's tough. I could relate in both heart ache and broken heart :)I am glad your ok...Do take care and be strong always...